She's CRAZY

Since the inception of this page, focusing on abusers within our community has been its primary aim. However, I believe it's crucial to emphasize the typical methods men use to silence women's voices. Labeling a woman as "crazy" is the simplest tactic to undermine her credibility. When we hear the phrase "she's crazy," we should understand it as predators' language, meaning "I don't want you to believe her."

That brings me to Cortney Marshall. As you might have seen, he’s been very active on our Facebook page (and others as well), aggressively labeling women as crazy when they call him out or fabricate stories to undermine their credibility in a desperate bid to shield himself. Rather than taking responsibility, he resorts to the harmful tactic of slander.

He is not the only person who takes this approach. Our very own Kevin Mathewson has posted numerous times about my “mental health issues” in order to build a story that anything that comes out of my mouth is fake. It truly is a pathetic attempt to silence me.

As Billie Eilish noted, “Birds of a Feather…stick together” which brings our story to a 4th of July party several years ago. I attended a 4th of July party with my ex-husband at his boss's house. It was a beautiful home and a delightful event. Everything was perfect until I encountered Manoj Babu, a math professor at a local university. The situation remained pleasant until I went inside alone to pour a glass of wine for myself and my then-husband when I suddenly felt large hands around my waist. Startled, I dropped the wine bottle, which shattered everywhere. I was extremely embarrassed and kept apologizing (internally chastising myself for apologizing when he had startled me). I informed my husband about the incident, and we kept our distance. After the fireworks, we went home. Although Manoj and I were not connected on social media, he sent me a Facebook message saying, "How much would you charge me to take you out for the night?" I was shocked and wondered why he would send something like that. Had I done anything to provoke this? My mind was racing, but I handed my phone to my husband, who dealt with it, and I'm pleased to say I never had to see Manoj again. I hadn't thought much about him until I heard some women mention that he was “handsy” and a “creep”. When this was later brought up to him (Manoj), he denied it ever happened, claiming I made it up [ya know, like a crazy woman]. When I began dating Cortney, he mentioned that one of his best friends was Manoj. This should have been a red flag for me to end things, but now I see the pattern among these men who stick together, cover for each other, and label all the women they've wronged as "crazy" – [Birds of a Feather, stick together].

Although men are usually the main users of predatory language, some women engage in it too. Typically, these are women who feel the need to elevate themselves above others and find courage behind a keyboard. Recently, Leah Crane decided to involve herself by alleging that I made advances toward her brother a few years ago, claiming she has numerous stories about how “crazy” I am. In reality, she wants people to perceive me as crazy to keep her family secrets hidden. I did not make advances toward Bruce Crane. Bruce and his wife, Melissa, are swingers and invited me to join them, which I politely declined, but I remained friends with them as I don't judge. I ended the friendship after Bruce sent an explicit photo to his underage niece while drunk, later claiming it was accidental. I don't wish to associate with people who make such mistakes. Additionally, they financially ruined their mother while their father was dying, leading her to foreclose on her home and incur massive credit card debt. Leah, as the devoted sister, prefers that people see me as crazy rather than holding her brother accountable for his reprehensible actions. Also, why is it only women like this saying that I claim rape all the time? Where are the men? Again, a way to dilute credibility and keeping predators on the street. Lastly "As much as everyone hates Kevin" coming from Leah, who hired him to stalk her ex. Stop show boating, you employed a predator.

Another typical method women use to undermine other women is by involving themselves in situations that don't concern them. Take Mandi, for example. We've never met in person. This illustrates someone attempting to be relevant despite having no ties to the situation. I believe we were Facebook friends years ago, and she frequently posted GoFundMe pages requesting help with her bills. It was annoying, so I unfriended her since I didn't really know her, even though we shared many mutual friends.

When people have things to hide, they want them to stay hidden, such as getting caught cheating. I could keep blasting men and women, airing their skeletons, but I’ll stop here for now. My goal isn’t to empty out everyone’s closet and blast every person that has called me crazy, but I do want to address the fact that I will. Being scared into silence is the number one reason women don’t report abuse and we continue to allow predators and abusers roam our streets instead of holding them accountable.

Bri Colter has enough cocaine laying around her house she should be able to keep her nose out of my business.

We must establish a secure environment for women to report abuse and expose predators. Kevin Mathewson is skilled at portraying individuals negatively, and the public often accepts this without conducting their own research. Many of those labeling others as "crazy" are "Christians" involved in churches, schools, and non-profit or volunteer activities. Kevin, as a "disciple of Christ," encourages "Christians" to believe that online bullying is acceptable. If the "Disciple of Christ" can engage in such behavior, then can't all "Christians"?

When someone reports abuse, we should let the courts conduct their due diligence and uphold the victim's privacy and confidentiality, rather than placing them on trial in the court of public opinion.

I don’t want this to read like a juicy piece from National Enquirer but this should serve as commentary on the double standard that society has created. Women who go against the grain – push back – hold people accountable are “crazy”. It’s a wrong standard, it’s divisive, and its hurtful. We must – and should do better.